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There Is No Such Thing As a Casual Divorce
No, women aren’t walking away just for the hell of it
To hear some people talk, you might think that women these days are getting divorced all willy-nilly. We’re jumping on the divorce bandwagon because it’s trendy. We’re breaking up families and telling our partners to get lost because we just don’t feel like working on our marriages.
We have no respect for our wedding vows, we can’t be trusted, and we don’t value commitment.
Well. As someone who has been separated for just over a year and who may be facing my soon-to-be ex-husband in court next month, I’m here to tell you that there is absolutely no such thing as a casual divorce.
The first time I thought about divorce was back in 2018. I’ll give you a minute to do the math: yes, that was seven years ago. My husband had just completed a three-month internship in another state, during which I solo parented our three- and six-year-old children. It was exhausting, in some ways, though by then I was already used to being the primary caregiver. I already got the kids ready in the morning, handled most of their school and daycare drop-offs and pick-ups, commuted to work downtown, and orchestrated dinner and bath time.
